From my feeds (RSS, Twitter), I’ve recently come across some interesting goings on in the world of conflict/dispute resolution. And as much of it jives with my own experience and take on resolving conflicts, I thought I’d summarize, with a few examples, what I see as key factors impacting the practice of conflict resolution, going […]
The Magic Relationship Ratio
June 12, 2010 by · 4 Comments
In relationships, accentuate the positive. Negative interactions have more clout than positive interactions. It is not a balanced equation. You need to have many positive interactions for each negative interaction, if you want a healthy, sustainable relationship! Relationship expert John Gottman sees each of our daily interactions with another person as bids for connection. By […]
Victoria's Family Collaborative Law Group: Raising the bar on ways to manage family conflict
May 25, 2010 by · 1 Comment
The Collaborative Family Law Group (CFLG) is a Victoria-based interdisciplinary group of independent professionals, whose mission is to encourage and promote a new process to create positive solutions for people in conflict and families in transition. Indeed that’s why I’m a fan of theirs. Recently I attended, as a guest, one of the regular monthly […]
Musings on peeling the onion and visual thinking
May 20, 2010 by · 2 Comments
We all have needs. When we’re stuck, dealing with unmet needs can help get things moving forward again. Understanding needs can be like peeling an onion; there are many layers. It may be a bit painful in the peeling, yet good things can happen afterwards, not the least of which is crafting sustainable solutions, as […]
Surprises in mediation can be a good thing
May 12, 2010 by · 4 Comments
As a mediator or facilitator, its easy to feel you’re in total control of the process. Don’t hold that thought too tight though! Sometimes, giving co-ownership of the process, over to the people in conflict, can lead to surprising results. It doesn’t matter if it was your intention or it happens spontaneously, letting go can […]
